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I am a big fan of equality, and I honestly believe that Women can do anything a man can do.

But everyone has some issues with who’s supposed to pay the dinner on the first date.
Well, most of the women will say the guy should pay, but how can you say that and believe in equality?
That’s the thing, when it comes to being a gentleman, there is no equality. The guy has to work a bit harder to get the girl’s attention. And that’s perfectly fine.

The thing is, when the bill arrives to the table, she reaches for her purse although she is waiting to hear you say “No no, it’s ok I got this one”, right?
And she will always, but always argue a bit with you regarding who should pay. But at the end, you will pay for the first dinner.

So, what happens after the first dinner? who should pay then?
I personally think that the guy needs to pay for the first and second dinner, and then they should split the bill in half.
There are a lot of women that believes that men needs to pay for all dinners, but I don’t think so.

Tell us what you think in the comments section? what is the correct ratio between the dinner payments?

Confidence - Stand straight and be confident of yourself. Practice your play on not being shy, it will come naturally along the way.

Body Language – Never cross your arms, while standing and crossing your are stating that you are in a defensive mode. This can be a major turn-off.

Look people straight in their eyes - Never look down! always make eye contact and smile to other people. Looking down will make you look humiliated and sad.

The first move is yours - Always be the one to make the first move. I know that it is especially hard for shy guys, but you got to get the courage to be the one to do it. Either to open a converstaion with a girl you are interested in, or kissing your date at the end of the night.

Be curious - Try asking questions and be insterested in what she has to say. Talking and asking questions will help you build your confidence.

Compliment your date - Shy guys don’t often compliment their dates, and are usually not used to getting compliments aswell. Try complimenting your date and try accepting her compliments back.

Always be aware of yourself and others - Most of the people will use body language to desribe their feelings for you. If you see someone that isn’t comfoterble with you being arround him or talking on a specific subject, back off and try again.

Ask more people out - Practice your dates, if one didn’t go so well it doesn’t mean the next one will be the same. Dating a lot will help you overcome your shyness.

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Do’s

1. Be punctual and try to look the best you can for the date.

2. Try having fun, dates should not be too serious.

3. Compliments are always welcomed (too many of them = bad). Try complimenting her clothes and the way she looks.

4. Try being as interesting as you can, don’t talk too much about yourself. When you date talks, listen to her. Never yawn or have an uninterested look on your face.

5. Be honest, if you do not want to see the person you just dated again, try telling her that in a polite way. Building hopes for a relationship with someone who actually does not want to see you again isn’t healthy.

6. Listen only to yourself. If you like a certain girl, don’t let your friend’s opinions get to you.

7. Stay positive, even if the date is a complete failure. The worst that can happen is that you met another person. Sometimes it takes awhile before you meet the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with.

8. Vary the places you choose for your date, don’t stick with just one place all the time.

9. Dates don’t fall off trees, you have to work to get them. Practice your lines and try them as often as you can.

10. Pay for the first date, women consider it noble when the guy pays for the first date.

Don’ts

1. Don’t call your date too much. It makes you look desperate.

2. Don’t stick with one type of people. Sometimes you need to date someone that is not your type.

3. Don’t be late for your date, it’s rude. Even if you have a good reason.

4. Don’t lie to your date. You will have to confront with these lies if the date develops into a serious relationship.

5. Don’t look too available. Being available all the time will make you look desperate. Try postponing a few dates.

6. Don’t reveal everything about yourself on the first date. People likes mystery and it should interest your date to another meeting.

7. Don’t mind other people while you are with your date. Stay focused on what she does and says.

8. Don’t get drunk or be disrespectful to other people while with your date.

9. Don’t date a married person, separating families apart is not nice at all.

10. Don’t give out any addresses or home phone numbers while on a first date. Use your cellular number and try getting that information from your date.

I did the impossible, I have dated a tall woman.
My height is 175cm and she was 185cm, that’s a big difference, especially when you are trying to kiss each other.

We’ve met at this friend’s party, she smiled at me so I approached her, I thought it was funny dating a tall woman, so we joked about it and she seemed to like my jokes.
After the party we dated a few more times, the first time was to another party and it was quite strange.

I guess a taller girl isn’t the optimal dancing partner, I just didn’t have a good time. You know, when you try dancing but you feel like an idiot.

After the party we got to my place and we didn’t do anything (I swear), but it was really nice.

We dated another time and this time it was to a restaurant. And it was also very nice, we talked a lot about her and we joked about the height issues she had as a young girl.

Then, we double dated with one of her friends, and I over heard her friend talking about me when I was leaving to the men’s room.
She said “How can you date someone that short? I would never date him!”

That seriously offended me, so when I came back I just picked my stuff off the table and left.

She didn’t bother running after me, I guess she knew I over heard her friend talking about me.

She called me the day after saying she’s sorry for all the stuff her friend said and that it’s not what she thinks etc..
But I knew that was it for me, I can’t keep walking by a woman that is taller than me. I can’t kiss a woman if she’s taller than me. It just doesn’t seem right.

So, we stopped dating and as far as I know she’s not talking to that friend of hers until now for what she said.

Don’t date them if they’re taller. It doesn’t work out!

Yes, some of us are still single, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of.

What you need to do next is to go out (alone or with your friends) and start asking girls out.
Now I know that it’s not as easy as it sounds, so I prepared a few tips for you to memorize when you are walking towards the girl you are about to ask out:

1. Play it cool, girls love relaxed guys. You shouldn’t look stressed.
2. Always go for the best. Don’t compromise the looks of the girl you are approaching.
3. Try to talk with her privately, her friends will usually bother her while you will be talking to her.
4. Don’t let your friends watch as you go. A lot of times they will be just staring at you two talk and that’s a bit awkward for the girl.
5. What do you have to lose? Nothing!

Try it in your local bar and come back to tell Men Seeking Women how it was.

Well, my awful experience with Online Dating didn’t get me anywhere with women.

I used to be on every dating service there is, and I mean every single one.
There are times when you are desperate for love, you just need it. So I turned to online dating services.

That’s where I met Janice, who looked sweet at the beginning, but I was soon to discover that she was a bit ill in her mind.
We met over this famous online dating service and we went out for dinner at a fancy restaurant.

I ordered normal stuff (steak with fries), but all she ordered was a tiny plate of salad.
It looked a bit weird at the moment but I didn’t put much thought to it, so we just talked for the rest of the dinner and we both interested each other so it wasn’t boring.

Just when we were about to leave, she went to the ladies room and when she got back she looked a bit shaken, like something happened.
I asked her if there was something wrong and she acted as if everything is OK.

I took her home, kissed her on the chick and we said goodbye.

A week later we went out again to this bar, and again, she acted weird by not ordering anything (and she didn’t even eat any of the free nachos we got).
Every time I asked her why she was not eating, she just switched the subject and it didn’t seem strange at the time..

In the following week that woman called me 2 times a day, everyday.
Just a reminder, we dated only twice.

I kept trying to be as short as I can with her, becuase something felt a bit strange, But she didn’t really mind, she just kept talking and talking (mostly about how fat she is - she weights about 50kg).

That’s when it hit me. I always felt like she had eating disorders, but I didn’t realise how mentally ill she is.
I confronted her about our first date when she left for the ladies room and I asked her if she threw up everything she ate, and after a while she admitted it.

Well, this poor girl is having some problems. Since we ended our relationship I’ve been helping her a lot. She is going to these meetings that help her deal with her problems and things are apperenately improving.

Hope she will be OK.

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Love.

We have all been there,

There is this woman, that you care so much about and she doesn’t even know you exist.
It could be a classmate, a coworker or just someone you see often.

I remember I met a girl once at the coffee place I used to work. She was so lovely.
She had brown eyes and long bright hair, not too thin, just my type.

She used to come over to the coffee place and order the same lunch everyday - A tuna sandwich with pickles.
I would try talking to her each time, you know - to through a few nice words and see how she responds to it.

She never did respond.
I looked at her finger and saw that she has no wedding ring or anything like that, so I still had hope.

So this one day, she came by and again, ordered the same tuna sandwich I have been serving her for months now. And I got the courage to ask her out! of course, her answer was “No, sorry - I have plans for tonight”.

Face down I left back to the kitchen to make her the tuna sandwich she wanted, and this time when I served it to her, she didn’t bother saying thanks, like I insulted her or something like that.

Well, I was quite persistant, I didn’t let her go so easy. The next day she came, I told her we could do something some other night when she is not busy, so she thought a few moments and said “Do you like movies?” I quickly responded “Yes!” and we went out that day to the movies.

It was fabulous, the movie was great, she was great, everything was absoloutly great.
At the end of the night I reached a dilemma that every guy reaches at the end of every first date.
To kiss or not to kiss? That is the question.

Again, I got the courage and I leaned forward trying to kiss her, she turned me down and said “Let’s wait for the next date, OK?” I had no other option but to agree and she left the car.

Next morning, she came by the coffee place again and this time she smiled at me and asked for an Avocado sandwich. “An avocado sandwich?” I asked. And she said “Yes, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking since our date yesterday” she said.

Apparently dating me got her to change her mind about tuna sandwiches and from now on she only eats avocado sandwiches at our coffee place.

We had a second and a third date which ended with a magical kiss. Though the relationship didn’t last as much as I wanted.
After about 10 dates she got back to her ex-boyfriend. I hope I will see her again.